I can not tell you how important it is to have a solid network of friends, family, and people who care about you in your life. You see, tragedy hits everyone eventually. If you depend on nothing more than yourself and your immediate family, you are in for a rough time. You need connections. You need a network.
I have a great network because of my church. I have the 6 ladies in my book club at church. I have the 16 people in my minichurch standing by my side. Plus, family and friends.
You see, these are the people who sat with me for 36 hours straight when John John was awaiting surgery. These are the people who cooked meals for me. These are the people who shuttled family around for us when we couldn’t. These are the people who brought us the necessities to the hospital when we couldn’t leave. These are the people who cleaned my house when I couldn’t. These are the people who just sat when another human could do no other best thing. They sat with us.
That is a big thing. Did you ever have a conversation where you couldn’t stand the silence and needed to fill the empty space? Well, these folks just let the silent be silent. They sat. They sat for days. Just like Job’s friends did.
13 Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.
And, they sat. They listened as we intermittently let the tears roll down our cheeks and sang worship songs together. Even poured out our doubts, fears, and sorrows in full. They sat with us through the motions. We had council as we desired. Not as people felt they should offer. It was a huge relief. As doctors and nurses did what they had to do to our baby boy. They sat. They endured pain along side of us.
2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
And that they did.
Community is intentional. It is a decision to build around yourself an intentional family. The type of people you can trust to not let you down in a time of need. They are carrying us through one of the toughest spots in our lives. Living fear along side of us. Living Joy and Hope right along side of us. It is a gift only God can give. He loves us so. Our intentional family continues to support us through the long haul. Where there are gaps, God places the right people in to fill the void. The right strangers, groups (anon), and loving people. This is part of the bigger plan that we can not see. We think there are gaps. What we fail to realize is that God has it all in His hands and we are already taken care of. We can rest in that. Everything is just fine. We just have to hang on for the ride.
Love you all, Faith